Kids document their story from  before, during and after a loss to understand, express and grieve. They do this by creating videos that include photos, mementos, original art, voiceovers and favorite music. They will use the seven step digital storytelling process to create an unforgettable documentary.

Participants will need their own laptop [...]]]>

Kids document their story from  before, during and after a loss to understand, express and grieve. They do this by creating videos that include photos, mementos, original art, voiceovers and favorite music. They will use the seven step digital storytelling process to create an unforgettable documentary.

Participants will need their own laptop and digital camera at each session.

Group Leader: Ginger Poole, LPCA, Art Therapist

Mendel Psychological Associates

Grades 7-8  -  Three Mondays (6:00-7:30PM)Aug. 16^th, Aug. 23, Aug. 30

Grades 9-12  – Three Thursdays (6:00-7:30PM) Aug. 19th, Aug. 26th, Sept 2,

Call Ginger Poole at 919-876-1314 or email gingerpoole@drmendel.com

There is a new and innovative way to help your child express feelings and learn about themselves in a safe group of 6 members. Digital Art Therapy uses computer graphic software, [...]]]> For teens who would like a small group social environment with an opportunity to express themselves creatively.

There is a new and innovative way to help your child express feelings and learn about themselves in a safe group of 6 members. Digital Art Therapy uses computer graphic software, stock photos and drawing software to highlight issues kids are dealing with through art where they can be addressed. Teens can make digital expressions in photo collages, digital paintings, music videos and animations to express their feelings and explore their situations. Every week we’ll learn a new computer technique from the leader and from a group member as well as social and personal skills as they come up in the context of the group.

If your teen can relate to these things they may be a good candidate for digital studio:

• Feeling different than people at school
• Holding in emotions
  
• Unable to talk about what’s bothering them
• Not having many friends
• Feeling misunderstood
• Loves the computer
• Likes art, video games, or animation
  

Requirements for attending the group:

• Bring your own laptop(Mac or PC)
• Loaded with your own favorite graphic software
  • A Photo program: Photoshop or Gimp (free), Corel, or other Photo program
  • A drawing program: Art Rage ($20) or Corel, Illustrator, Paint or other program

For grades 9-12

Friday nights 6PM-8PM – $35 per session -  Admission allowed at any time. Free consultation interview with parent and teen required before beginning group.

Includes private Digital Studio website where art work can be posted between sessions only for studio members to see and exchange tips.

All levels welcome.

Location: Mendel Psychological Associates

Call Ginger Poole at 919-876-1314 to find out more details and to schedule an initial interview.

We hope that you can join us.

I lead three groups – one for 5th and 6th graders, one for 7th and 8th graders, and [...]]]> Perhaps the most frequent call or e-mail I receive is to inquire about joining one of the Social Skills groups I lead.  So, the following is a description of the groups and of the procedures for joining.

I lead three groups – one for 5^th and 6^th graders, one for 7^th and 8^th graders, and one for high school students.  Children and teenagers with a variety of psychiatric diagnoses are in these groups, but the common thread is that all of these kids have been on the fringes of social groups throughout their lives.  These are kids who have struggled chronically to make friends and keep friends; many or most have suffered teasing, rejection, bullying, and humiliation at the hands of their peers.  Some of the kids in my groups have the diagnosis of Aspergers Disorder; others have High-Functioning Autism.  Others are extremely shy or socially anxious.  Still others do not have a specific diagnosis along these lines but are awkward socially and have various difficulties with their peers.

When these kids join one of my groups, they quickly realize – typically within the first session or two –that here is a totally different social setting.  Here is a place where there will be no teasing, where they can fit in and find a sense of belonging for which they have yearned so desperately.  They see that here are other kids who have had similar experiences and suffered similar pains over rejection and teasing as they have.  In short, here is a place where they can fully fit in with and be accepted by their peers.  I find that kids in these groups generally love the groups and look forward to coming each week.  For many, the group is a highlight of their week.

All of my groups are non time-limited; that is, there is no start date and end date.  Kids join the groups at various points and remain in the group until they, their parents, and I feel that they have gotten what they need and can from group and they are ready to move on.  At that point, we have a graduation ceremony (and pizza party) to commemorate their time in group and what they have gained through group.

Currently, the youngest group meets on Wednesdays from 3:30 to 4:45, the middle school group meets on Thursdays from 5:00 to 6:15, and the high school group meets on Thursdays from 6:30 to 7:45.  The fee for each group is $80.00 per group session.  The maximum size for the younger two groups is 6 students, while the high school group has a maximum of 8 students.  (It is an interesting and, I think, heartwarming story how the maximum size for the high school group increased from 6 to 8.  At one point, we had a boy waiting to join group a few weeks before another boy was set to graduate.  I asked the group how they would feel if we briefly had 7 students in the group, so he could join now rather than waiting for the graduation.  They responded enthusiastically, saying that of course he could and asking if we could just have more kids in the group all the time.  One said, “That way we could make even more friends.”  Here are a group of kids who have generally dreaded social interactions because of their negative and painful experiences with their peers.  Now, they look forward to these interactions and welcomed the opportunity to meet new potential friends.)

The procedure for joining group is as follows:

• I always have the first session with parent or parents.  In this session, I obtain a thorough history and background, including a clear sense of the problems and concerns.  I learn about the child’s interests and his social history, including peer interactions and friendships.  The fee for the initial intake is $180.00
• Then, I have an individual session with the child or teenager.  A portion of this session is spent with the child and his parent(s), with a portion one-to-one with me.  This meeting is largely so that he and I can get to know each other, so he doesn’t walk into his first group meeting not knowing the other kids or me.  I also learn about his perspective on social situations and what areas of his life aren’t going as well as he’d like.
• Finally, during that meeting, we develop a behavioral contract.  All of the kids in each of my groups are on individual behavioral contracts, based on their particular areas of difficulty.  They work on these at home and the contracts are reviewed between parent(s) and child on a daily basis, with the parent scoring the child’s performance on each goal.  The child gets points from these contracts which they can use, along with points they earn during the group itself, to purchase items from the “reward closet.”  This serves as big motivator for many of these kids.

In reading this, many of you may have noticed that I always refer to a child or adolescent as “he.”  Currently, all of the kids in each of my groups are male.  I am open to including girls in group if there are 2 or more ready to join group.  Over the years, I have had occasional referrals of girls to my groups, but it always seems to be just one at any given point in time and neither or nor her parents want her to be the only girl in a group of boys.  There have been some occasions when 2 girls have been members of a middle school or high school group and this has gone quite well.  I would welcome this opportunity again, since learning to interact with members of the opposite sex is certainly among the most vital social skills.

It is my great pleasure to offer these groups to kids with pressing social needs.  I hope this blog entry provides all of the information needed for you, as a parent, to move ahead with getting help for your child.

As an artist working within relationships of growth and healing I know I am on the right path when I share remarkable moments with children, teenagers, and families. There are endless ways these moments coalesce to [...]]]> I am grateful to be an Expressive Arts Therapist because to be a therapist is to be an artist.

As an artist working within relationships of growth and healing I know I am on the right path when I share remarkable moments with children, teenagers, and families. There are endless ways these moments coalesce to form deep connection, joy, understanding, and determination; in essence all the vital stuff of humanity.

The therapeutic theories and techniques that guide me have come through the careful observations and research of my colleagues and those who have come before me. Carrying out these understandings of human development, relationships, and healing through intentional creative processes is nothing less than the unfolding of meaningful experience.

Sometimes I think it is hard for parents to understand the far reaching effects of play therapy and the expressive arts. This confusion can lead to questions such as:

• Is this really going to keep Johnny from hitting his sister?
• Is Becky really going to get better grades by doing this?
• I play with my child too, how is this going to help?

I welcome such inquiries because they come from parents who care, who want the best for their children. My response is a resounding YES, this will help.

As I engage children, adolescents and families we all have goals in mind, target behaviors to change, grades to raise, but we humans are not simple mathematical equations to solve. If we do A plus B then C will happen. Hey I admit, sometimes C does happen (thankfully) but usually not consistently over time. This is why creative collaboration and individual differences are so essential to therapy. Through creative therapies something deeper is happening. Long lasting fundamental moments of transformation are occurring. Over varying degrees of time these core changes begin to affect those most disruptive behaviors that have called out to us saying, “I need something more.” Johnny does stop hitting and Becky gets an A.

Many parents I see are already engaging with their children in creative ways each day. So I say, come in and let’s have the whole family play together. Let’s get more intentional about
play time and also weave creative methods that help into your every day routine. For developmental disorders, attachment issues, mood issues, and learning disorders the bottom line is the same, finding one’s unique path to human connection. There is no script for authentic human connection, although some explicit teaching is very helpful, when it comes down to cultivating fullness of life collaborating creatively is what leads to quality living.

I am so thankful for all the moments I have shared with my Clients. One mother heard me and her son through the wall in the waiting room and said later, “I have not heard him laugh like that for so long!”

I recently asked a seven year old girl. “What can we work on together to make the things that are hard for you easier?” She replied wistfully, “Oh, there are so many things.” I am now the keeper of a folded up drawing she titled my problem. We will pull this problem out of my drawer next session and play it out, play beyond it, play from the deeper perceptions from which this problem emerged. Expressive arts therapy calls forth the expression of these deeper perceptions because they are the stuff of art. Expressive Arts Therapy is an immensely human process and a beautiful one at that.

Experts:

An autistic teenager learns to communicate with other people by playing the drums as part of a group. A family in therapy makes a drawing together, allowing the therapist to observe their interactions and the [...]]]> I encourage yoo to read this wonderful article published on the American Psychological Association’s web site and magazine.

Experts:

An autistic teenager learns to communicate with other people by playing the drums as part of a group. A family in therapy makes a drawing together, allowing the therapist to observe their interactions and the finished picture. Members of a breast cancer support group use dance and movement to express their feelings about being ill. A group of abuse survivors write a poem together and then read it aloud.
Each of these is an example of creative arts therapy at work.

Creative arts therapies–sometimes also called expressive therapies–use media like dance, drama, music, poetry and visual arts to help clients express themselves.

Many of us have had profound experiences of our own in [...]]]> Prior to joining Mendel Psychological Associates I was a Wilderness Therapist at a Wilderness Therapy Program in North Carolina. It was a tremendous experience to witness children and adolescents find empowerment and healing through learning about their natural environment and living in the forest.

Many of us have had profound experiences of our own in nature and seek outdoor experiences, including a simple walk in our neighborhoods, as often as possible. During busy times it is easy to be swept along by our schedules and forget to take time to experience nature for ourselves and with our children. With spring upon us, as a Therapist, I am reminded of the wonderful healing opportunity nature offers.

Last week I had the privilege of meeting with one of my child clients during a glorious spring afternoon. He is seven years old and about to be adopted for the second time; I will call him Michael.

Michael is sad and struggling more than ever in school. This bright, creative, social child is becoming increasingly withdrawn as the transition from one family to another progresses. As we moved from swings, to sandbox, to monkey bars, activities he adores, it became clear how clouded his seven year old magic had become.

Boy running in the woods

I found a little box among the toys I brought and invited him on a nature walk in the sparse woods that surrounded the playground. At first Michael was reticent but intrigued. As I began pointing out the small details of buds, leaves, and rocks Michael’s interest and enthusiasm grew. Then a hawk landed several feet away from us and we got to see it look for food by the stream. Soon Michael was pointing things out all around us and our nature box began to overflow with beautiful objects. My heart filled to see some of Michael’s zest for life return and when our session was over he was excited to connect with others and show them the inside of our nature box.

As a child that has experienced several wounding interruptions in the consistent nurturing and safety every child needs, he himself is something to behold. Next week we will be planting seeds together for him to tend in his windowsill. My hope is that tending the every day miracle of a sprouting plant will help him to continue being able give and receive care with others.